evolving truth

a quote related to my 'knowing no-thing' post
from the Conversations with God books:

... their evolving truth about a thing differs from what they said their truth would always be. And so, they are deeply conflicted. What to obey — my truth, or my promise?

Advice?

Betrayal of yourself in order not to betray another is betrayal nonetheless. It is the highest betrayal.

I would not ever want a person to keep their promise to me if it required them to violate their own integrity. Nor would I be in relationship with anyone who required that of me.

If we ask anyone to betray themselves for us, our 'love' is built upon a foundation of shifting sands: fear, resentment, and distrust. Yes, it is painfully human to want predictability and stability and all that good stuff. But can it truly be guaranteed, even with the best of intentions? the reality of life is that things, people, and situations change. seems to me that the only way to cope with that is to be willing to accept it.

the one commmitment I can make with full integrity to anyone is that I will share my evolving truth with them as I become aware of it. it's the only promise that I have any chance of keeping.

can true love exist without free will?