love is ...

The only thing that makes you sad is lack of connection to who you are. What people call love, the feeling of love, the feeling of in love, the feeling of joy, is a feeling of no split energy - it's being in sync with the Source. So, any negative emotion you feel is not because of the loss of a person, or the loss of a friend. It's the loss of your connection, the loss of being tuned in and tapped in to who you really are.
- Abraham-Hicks

In other words, the object of our affection is not the source of the good feelings that come with being in love. The good feelings are inside us. Love IS who we are. And we feel much better when we are expressing who we are than when we are not. Congruence is satisfying!

So loving is actually a gift we give to ourselves, and the other person sort of gets the fringe benefit of our affection, attention, acceptance, etc. It's often so much easier for us to feel the flow of love in our hearts when there's someone in front of us who meets our needs and we find adorable.

And it's possible to live as Love even when that's not happening.
More about that later ...